Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things
were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and
wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed
as
one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and
placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she
placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she
placed
ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
She fished the
carrots
out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them
in
a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer
and
asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.
The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After
pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter
smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does
it
mean, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity
... boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong,
hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling
water,
it softened and became weak. The egg had been
fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but
after
sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The
ground
coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water,
they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with
pain
and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
heat?
Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial
hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my
shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a !
stiff
spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,
the
very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it
releases
the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at
their
worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour
is
the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to
another level?
How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make
you
strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you
happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they
just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The
brightest
future will always be based on a forgotten past;! you can't go forward
in
life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches."
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