I am 14 and I have this guy friend, actually my BEST guy friend (and I'll call him Travis) that I have a BIG crush on... And I think it's the first time I feel this way about a guy...and to explain myself this is what I mean:
I've had a crush on him for about a year now.
6 months ago, when one of my friends asked him out (but I didn't tell her at that time), I cried the whole night and I NEVER did that to any of my crushes , or any of my other "major" crushes.
I started to think in a certain way that I haven't done to my other crushes, by this I mean I started to say "He's pretty cute..." and like I said I NEVER did that to any other guy before...and please don't take this to mean that I care only about their looks, because I don't ... Their looks don't matter A LOT to me...
Whenever I'm around him I actually start getting "butterflies" , and once again, I haven't "experienced" that with any of my other crushes.
Now what I want to ask you is: Should I tell him? It's been a year and I still REALLY like him, and each day I think it's increasing... But I don't want to make a fool of myself either ...
Some people say he likes me, and I don't know if that's true or not. They told some "signs" that happens whenever he's around me and I don't know if this will help but here are a few:
Constantly pokes me by constant I MEAN CONSTANT!, or randomly grabs me, or randomly ruffles my hair.
Has a nickname for me.
Talks to me constantly both IN school and OUT of school
Teases me about anything.
And this isn't a sign coming from HIM, but something one of my ..classmates told me, they thought we were dating because we always seem to be so "close" together ... And when I told my friends that these "signs" are just him being himself, they reply by saying "He doesn't have a nickname for me!" or "he NEVER pokes ME!" or "ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! HE NEVER TALKS TO ME WHEN EVER IM ON MSN!" and so on...
And so I just wanted to ask you if you think there is a chance that he MAY like me...by what I told you... and I know it's not a lot since you don't know them... but my friends are all pointing to the "Yes he does like you!" direction ... and if you "assume" he does, do you think I should tell him? Or just drop hints? Or what?
Thanks for taking the time to read this! Thanks a lot! Please tell me what to do ... And I hope you can achieve your dreams one day! Thanks once again.
J
Dear J,Based on what you are telling me, I think "Travis" likes you.
The "signs" you told me about are definitely the classic hints a boy would give when he likes a girl. I am not sure if you should tell "Travis"
that you like him. Maybe if you drop some hints and he responds in a way that shows he likes you, then you should tell him that you like him.
However, by telling him that you like him you also have to realize you are putting your friendship on the line, because if you do enter a realtionship with him and it ends badly, your friendship could end up
badly too.
You have to think about whether a relationship with this guy is more important to you or your friendship with him is more important to you. I really hope this helps, please write again if you have any more issues with "Travis" or need more advice.
Good luck and keep me posted.
Rachael
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